Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts

Thursday, March 25, 2010

your reality is a reflection of yourself




So besides the Law that "Thoughts become Things" there is the other Law in Magick that says "your reality is a reflection of yourself." In other words, what you experience around you is a reflection of what you are giving.
In my position at work I interact with a lot of people, who struggle on a daily basis to get their tasks done because of what I saw as their inability to see the bigger picture.

Two days ago I realised that I was guilty of doing exactly what I detest, which is spreading negative energies about people. In attempting to deal with an issue caused by these coworkers that I supervise, I sometimes vent to other workers close by. It did occur to me that the ventees may also go and vent to others and the negative opinion about a person is being spread, beginning with me.

I made the decision to stop the venting. I also began realizing that the lack of experience was not their fault. They cannot be blamed for the level of guidance they recieved in the matter. However, I can certainly be blamed for recognizing the issue at hand, and failing to correct it at the root, and guide them in the right direction.

I changed my outlook that day. Each person has a talent in their own right. Each person has an asset which makes them valuable to the company. I can focus on that asset and build on the positive...making their strengths stronger, and also, by focus, giving them the skills they need to maximize that talent they have.
I need to acknowledge their weaknesses and find a way to work around them, still getting them to accomplish their task.

My new mantra is " each person is a creative and talented individual. And it is my duty to find those talents and help them to blossom. By steering them down the path of their talents, I believe I would have a happier team.

In this way, I would emmitt less frustration, and thus receive less frustration from my coworkers. The cycle would then be stopped, by my shift in outlook.

Friday, October 2, 2009

Magickal Mind

I am currently struggling with a two relationship models which I have to chose from. I would love to make up my mind soon, but my mind is preventing me from doing just that. Like any other girl in my generation I was brought up with the Prince Charming scenario, where the Prince rescues the Princess from her tormented issues and whisks her off into happily ever after land.

I must admit that in my last three relationships, I was waiting to be rescued. There was this energy of "waiting for the Prince" in order to live my life and be a whole person.
Unfortunately, that paradigm did not work really. Because, in today's world, I cannot seem to tolerate Princes who refuse to grow....and eventually conflict arises...and I part ways with them.

So recently, having done the same thing, met up with the Uncles and Aunties who were quick to dole out advice about what I was doing wrong, and what I should do next. I hear their relationship model....but they too admit that the traditional one does not work either. There was lamentation, that women want their own lives and their own homes and do not wish to get married anymore....and indeed I must obviously hate men because of my experiences.

So..... my model has not worked for me for the last three relationships, and even though they insist I must now follow their model- that does not ring true for me either- and not one of them can admit to being completely happy.

I think I'd better stick to my model, because I have been through it and can perfect its shortcomings.....while their model seems like a prison sentence to me.